My ideal (Unrealistic fantasy) valentines day!

As you may know valentines day is right around the corner and because I'm single I wont be doing anything for it (completely not bothered though..). Just because I'm not doing anything, it doesn't stop me having ideas for what I'd like to do on valentines day and oh boy do I have a big imagination. 

Okay so first off I'd like to wake up to breakfast in bed inc. eggs, bacon, pancakes.. the works! You might be thinking what's so unrealistic about that.. well I should add I'd like this to be in Paris (or Venice.. I'm not fussy) with an amazing view from my window.  After we've ate we'll go for a walk along a river and have a picnic and it will be lovely. We'll go to dinner in a nice restaurant where I'll be told that the next day we'll be going to disney land paris or for a gondola ride (is ride the right word). I can't think of anything else that is both unrealistic and that I would want but yeah there you go. 

Now jokes aside I would literally be happy with a nice day at home.. I'd still want breakfast in bed but we'd both make it and then jump back into bed and eat it watching something on tv. Other than that there's nothing I wouldn't be happy with on valentines day (other than being left on my own or being actually left). We could do some baking together or go to the cinemas. Without sounding like 'that girl' who pretends downplay everything by saying they'd be happier with like a McDonald's or whatever.. I would genuinely love to go to a cafe  like a 'greasy spoon' (not as disgusting as it sounds) their my favourite type of cafe and type of place to eat. 

So yeah, that is both my unrealistic and realistic valentines day. Just to reiterate the first one is entirely unrealistic, I wouldn't expect any of that on valentines day. On previous valentines, I've gone for a meal with friends or spent the night watching films again with friends. You don't have to have a boyfriend on valentines day you can share the love with anyone!

Hayl xo

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A - Z of me - 26 questions about me

Oh hey there.. is it that time of the week again? Well you'd best grab a drink and maybe a snack because this is the A - Z of me and we could be here a while! 

A: If you were an ANIMAL, what would you be?

I would probably be a parrot (in the wild) because they can talk, maybe not wild ones though cause they wont encounter enough humans to learn words BUT they can fly around all the time and see beautiful sights and they apparently have the longest lifespan

B: BOOKS: What’s on your reading list?

at the moment I'm reading need by carrie jones which is to get me into the Halloween spirit because it's quite supernatural and is fitting to the time of year, I'm also in the process of reading mokee joe by peter j murray which again has a spooky theme to it but it's not that bad cause it's made for a young audience I've actually had it since I was about 7 or 8, I'll add the book cover and let you decide for yourself but I would be terrified if the monster from it came near me!

C: COMPULSIVE about anything?

A few things actually, I keep my highlighters in 'rainbow' order, my books are in genre order, my dvds are in genre and company order for example if there are two chick flicks made by universal - they will be together, also I can't stop clicking/cracking my knuckles

D: DREAMS – Do you…dream in colour? Remember your dreams? Keep a dream journal?

I do tend to dream in colour, well the ones I remember are in colour, I actually have quite realistic dreams, like I'll have dreams including people I know and they'll say things the person would say so some are actually quite memorable but I can never remember enough to write a dream journal, I wish I could though!

E: EATING – what’s your usual snack?

So I really don't eat very healthily, I wish I could but I just cant bring myself to so I mainly reach for a packet of crisps but I don't snack a lot through the day, I'll have a packet of crisps and maybe a chocolate bar at the most.

F: A few of your FAVOURITE Things

Nutty chocolate, tomato soup, my dog, tv, books, my family, my amazing friends, clicking my knuckles, rugby players of the welsh kind, copious amounts of alcohol 

G: GIGGLES! What (or who) makes you laugh? Do you have a good sense of humor?

Puns make me laugh a lot, most comedy shows, most comedy films, myself, my best friend, lee evans(comedian), nick grimshaw(radio personality), russell howard(comedian) I mean, theres a lot more.. Im a cheap laugh, I find a lot of things funny

H: Major HOT Button:

Ignorance, people that don't accept change when it's clearly for the better, dying on flappy bird (yes I still play it), when people are only open to one way of thinking like they have one opinion and anything else that doesn't go with that opinion is wrong, when people want help and when you try to help they complain that everything your doing to help is wrong

I: I am…

Short. Funny(well I think so). friendly. forgiving. uninteresting. out of things I am

K: Also KNOWN As… Aliases? Screen names? A non de plume perhaps?

I wouldn't say I was known as anything, I use my own name for screen names, I don't have a pseudonym or anything like that.. Just Hayley, or hayl

L: I LOVE…

My Family and friends, good food, alcohol, reading, made in chelsea, my dog, 

M: How do you feel about MEETING people? Do it all the time? Rarely? Parties or 1-on-1?

Im shy sometimes but I do love meeting new people, I like learning about people and stuff like that.

N: What’s the story of your NAME? Were you named after anyone? Do you go by a nickname? Any aliases?

My mum didn't know what she wanted to call me at all and then it came to me being born and she still didn't know so my brother decided I should be named after his friend who was obviously called Hayley, so yeah.. my middle name Louisa is from my grandma frances who died before I was born so I never got to meet her but I've heard great things

O: OBSERVANT – What’s around you right now? What do you see?

My laptop is right in front of me, my dog is laid on the floor next to my door, the tv is on and glue is about to start, I can see 3 bottles of water on my dressing table.. there are a lot of things in my room tbh

P: Who are the special PEOPLE in your life?

Well my parents I guess are the most important, my nannie is really important too I love her to pieces even if I haven't seen her in a while, I also love my brother cause he's great, obviously my friends are really important to me too because idk, when aren't friends important?

Q: Any little QUIRKS about yourself?

I am a compulsive knuckle clicker, I call 'coke' cola, I try on outfits and makeup constantly when I'm planning to go out or for a party, I talk too much and Im also a huge panicker like I unnecessarily worry if someone doesn't reply to a message on facebook or anything else, I have a specific way of eating and I don't know if its just me (let me know if you do the same) but when I'm eating a meal lets say a sunday dinner, I would eat the veg then the mash, then the chicken - like I do that with any meal!

R: What do you like to do for RECREATION?

I read, spend time with my friends, watch films, binge watch tv shows, blog, go to the gym

S: Do You SING in the Shower? In the car? For your friends?

I sing all the time, whether I'm any good is debatable but I definitely sing a lot, I aaaalways sing in the shower and bath because I don't like the silence. 

T: What’s at the top of your TO DO list?

I'm not quite sure, I have no massive aspirations at the moment - I guess the usual things like travelling - do well idk

U: Any UNUSUAL experiences?

The only few that come to mind are from nights out in the town - the first one was when me and my friend jasmine were in a club just dancing and having a good time and there were two boys, not remotely attractive (not that I cared I was just uninterested in them) and they were dancing near us and they kept looking at us so I smiled just being nice and polite as you do and the tallest boy says "you's can give us the V whenever you's want" middlesborough town really is wonderful. The second one was on another night out we were in the second bar we usually go to on a night and we were quite drunk and I was dancing stood at my chair and I knocked my full jug of cocktail over and soaked myself, I went to the toilet to dry off and when I got back there was ice everywhere so I threw it at one friend who threw it back so I then threw it at another and carried on and when there was no where else to throw it I threw it off the balcony, just to see if it would hit anyone, me and hollie (you know who she is) carried on throwing ice and then hollie threw a ring and I don't know why, two minutes later, a bouncer was stood next to me telling me he saw what I was doing and I should stop because it was dangerous and I'll have to leave if I do it again. 

V: VEGAS, Vienna, Venice, Vladivostok… How far have you travelled? What’s your favourite city?

I haven't travelled that much to be honest I've only stayed in the UK, I think the furthest I've been is Stone which is 169 miles away from where I live. My favourite place to go is probably Scarborough where I was born, it's just full of history, for the country and myself. 

W: WINTER, Spring, Summer, Fall… What’s your favourite season? What makes it special?

Erm, I like summer the most because it's brighter and everyone's happier and people have bbq's and parties and its my birthday in the summer and its just great. I like winter too though because I like christmas and watching christmas films and snow and seeing people in the festive spirit

X: EXes…

I don't have many but they've never really bothered me, I'm still 'friends' with one 

Y: Any secret/deep YEARNINGS?

I would really like to get a job that pays well and I can be comfortable best thing would be to be able to work from home, I don't know what doing though - not a secret though. There are some secret ones but I mean, they're a secret for a reason..

Z: ZERO to ZENITH – Where are you in your life? Still growing? On an upward (or downward) curve? Just skating along?

I mean, I guess I'm growing still, because im only young but I would also like to think im on an upward curve cause Im pretty happy with how my life is and how everything is going.

So this has been the A-Z of me, if your getting to this point in the post and you have an opinion on what I said or what I should write about or even just to say hi or to let me know you're a recurring reader, please comment on the post, just to show people are taking in what I say and are enjoying my posts - I dont even care if you don't like them, tell me that IT ALL HELPS! As always thanks for reading my posts and giving me silent motivation to carry on because if it wasn't for you having a gander, I wouldn't be writing these posts!

Hayl xo 

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you are from mars, we are from venus - 10 (or more) things men should know!

This is probably the most found post on blogs but nonetheless I shall be making it so go get some biscuits and a drink of your choice (or not, your call) and enjoy!

1. We like to mix it up - As happy as we are to go out and do romantic couple things every now and then, contrary to popular belief, we aren't actually that arsed, we would be just as happy to have a nice night in watching bad TV with good shows, as long as you're having a good time, who cares what you're doing? (This doesn't include anniversaries though, we expect at least a little romance on those occasions). Some ideas could be finding a new show for the two of you to watch on netflix or make cakes together, I don't know the world really is your oyster, my point is we don't expect a big deal every single time we do something, we're just as happy to chill in the house doing nothing.
2. Remember little things - As weird as it sounds, you'd be surprised how many girls would agree! Not only is it proof you listen to us but it's just nice. Now I don't mean you have to listen with adoration to every word we say, I just mean if we tell you about something coming up or something we're doing remember it and ask us about it. This actually also helps when trying to buy gifts for us cause lord knows we're not the easiest to buy for! If we tell you something about our childhood, like something we had and loved but don't have any more, remember things like that or if we tell you something is our favourite perfume, when you're in the doghouse you'll know how to get yourself out! ALWAYS remember the big things too though like birthdays, anniversaries  
3. Dressing up - Girls don't get dressed up just for boys, I know people (not myself) that could put makeup on just to stay in the house and it's completely just for us. Obviously if we're meeting a boy for the first time, we'll make a good impression and look okay but we do not do it just for boys. If we're comfortable with you we'll probably wear our comfiest clothes and only a little cover-up IF THAT! 
4. Being clingy isn't good in a boy - Now I in no way mean you should be distant all the time and be hard to reach because that's upsetting and stressful. What I do mean is that you don't have to start every conversation, (if you do start every single conversation the girl is either making you work REALLY hard or she just isn't into you) if we want to talk, we will. 
5. Be a friend first - If you've just started talking to a girl and you think she's nice, talk to her as a friend first, get to know her, what she likes and what she doesn't, no respectable girl I know appreciates full on flirting the first time she talks to you. I know that you might be scared that you'll get friend-zoned but you just have to work at it and build up the flirting (make sure she knows  you're interested), don't lay the compliments on too heavy too fast either, it makes conversations so awkward when we don't know what to say back! We remember it when we're down and you can be there for us!
6. You can have friends of the opposite sex - If you're a girl and you've just read this you're probably thinking "oh hell no, if he so much as looks at a girl... we're done" and I agree IF ITS NOT PLATONIC! If a boy is friends with a girl and has been for some time, something would have happened if it was ever going to! This doesn't mean to go out and get female friends cause that's v unacceptable but if you already have them, don't push them away, it's not nice especially if you're close to them, that upsets us too!
7. We have male friends too- This point is pretty self explanatory but we do! Lots of girls have boys that they look at more as brothers than anything, we may have slight 'flanter' (flirty banter - *cringes as I type it*) with them but that's it, just like I said in the last point, if anything was ever gonna happen it would've! The only reason you'd have to feel threatened by a boy like this is if you hurt us, then your in for it (I literally sound like my nan)
8. Don't ditch - If we have plans and you get asked to go somewhere with you're friends don't just bail/ditch and then change our plans, that's not fair at all. We wouldn't expect you to ditch your friends either though, if you have plans and we ask to do something, don't lie to us or ditch your friends just say and (forgive me if I speak for myself here) but we will be understanding and it'll all be great. 
9. Give compliments, not criticism - The age old question that the entire male species dreads 'Does my bum look big in this?' (I actually have never asked that, even of myself but yeah...). This is a case of, if you have nothing nice to say don't say it.. If you think we look nice in something - tell us it'll make our day! That being said, we wouldn't want you to let us go out looking ridiculous either, just don't be rude about it, we might not be too thankful at first but after consideration, we'll realise and be glad. Even if the criticism is playful and you say you're joking, it'll stick to us for ages, gnawing away at our self esteem, I'm not even exaggerating.
10. Personal Space - This is described in the film 'angus, thongs and perfect snogging' as the elastic band theory (I'm sure any British girl reading this will understand exactly what I mean, I'm not too sure about other readers)  The gist is after a period of closeness we like to ping off (there's the elastic band we were talking about) and relax a bit, the space period probably wont be long but when we need space, it's important you let us have it, you don't have to cut communication just don't bug us and we'll return the favour when it's your turn.

Other things you should know - 

• If we ask certain questions, it isnt always because we want to know, it's because we know the answer and we want to hear it from you!
• If we say 'what did you just say?' don't actually repeat yourself, we're giving you the chance to think what you said and change your answer!
• If you've had a thing with a girl and she's still hung up on you, don't talk to her at parties cause that'll get her hopes up, don't flirt with other girls near us either. 
• Girls have ways of finding out everything, even if you're not with us there'll be someone who knows us that would tell us everything you did, just be careful!
• You should be exactly who you want around us, we don't want to find that you change entirely when we're around your friends. 

So that's it for this weeks blog (she says as if it was short) I'd like to point out that these are my opinions/views/words etc and may or may not apply to other girls, if you're a girl  and you agree (or even disagree) leave a comment and let me know, also if there's anything you want to see from me then, again, let me know in the comments and I'll get back to you or whatever!

I'd really like to thank you if you're reading this, it means a lot as a first time blogger, I'd also like to thank my friends who at such an early stage are being so supportive and nice, love yas

Hayl xo

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