Monday 15 September 2014

you are from mars, we are from venus - 10 (or more) things men should know!

This is probably the most found post on blogs but nonetheless I shall be making it so go get some biscuits and a drink of your choice (or not, your call) and enjoy!
  1. We like to mix it up - As happy as we are to go out and do romantic couple things every now and then, contrary to popular belief, we aren't actually that arsed, we would be just as happy to have a nice night in watching bad TV with good shows, as long as you're having a good time, who cares what you're doing? (This doesn't include anniversaries though, we expect at least a little romance on those occasions). Some ideas could be finding a new show for the two of you to watch on netflix or make cakes together, I don't know the world really is your oyster, my point is we don't expect a big deal every single time we do something, we're just as happy to chill in the house doing nothing.
  2. Remember little things - As weird as it sounds, you'd be surprised how many girls would agree! Not only is it proof you listen to us but it's just nice. Now I don't mean you have to listen with adoration to every word we say, I just mean if we tell you about something coming up or something we're doing remember it and ask us about it. This actually also helps when trying to buy gifts for us cause lord knows we're not the easiest to buy for! If we tell you something about our childhood, like something we had and loved but don't have any more, remember things like that or if we tell you something is our favourite perfume, when you're in the doghouse you'll know how to get yourself out! ALWAYS remember the big things too though like birthdays, anniversaries  
  3. Dressing up - Girls don't get dressed up just for boys, I know people (not myself) that could put makeup on just to stay in the house and it's completely just for us. Obviously if we're meeting a boy for the first time, we'll make a good impression and look okay but we do not do it just for boys. If we're comfortable with you we'll probably wear our comfiest clothes and only a little cover-up IF THAT! 
  4. Being clingy isn't good in a boy - Now I in no way mean you should be distant all the time and be hard to reach because that's upsetting and stressful. What I do mean is that you don't have to start every conversation, (if you do start every single conversation the girl is either making you work REALLY hard or she just isn't into you) if we want to talk, we will. 
  5. Be a friend first - If you've just started talking to a girl and you think she's nice, talk to her as a friend first, get to know her, what she likes and what she doesn't, no respectable girl I know appreciates full on flirting the first time she talks to you. I know that you might be scared that you'll get friend-zoned but you just have to work at it and build up the flirting (make sure she knows  you're interested), don't lay the compliments on too heavy too fast either, it makes conversations so awkward when we don't know what to say back! We remember it when we're down and you can be there for us!
  6. You can have friends of the opposite sex - If you're a girl and you've just read this you're probably thinking "oh hell no, if he so much as looks at a girl... we're done" and I agree IF ITS NOT PLATONIC! If a boy is friends with a girl and has been for some time, something would have happened if it was ever going to! This doesn't mean to go out and get female friends cause that's v unacceptable but if you already have them, don't push them away, it's not nice especially if you're close to them, that upsets us too!
  7. We have male friends too- This point is pretty self explanatory but we do! Lots of girls have boys that they look at more as brothers than anything, we may have slight 'flanter' (flirty banter - *cringes as I type it*) with them but that's it, just like I said in the last point, if anything was ever gonna happen it would've! The only reason you'd have to feel threatened by a boy like this is if you hurt us, then your in for it (I literally sound like my nan)
  8. Don't ditch - If we have plans and you get asked to go somewhere with you're friends don't just bail/ditch and then change our plans, that's not fair at all. We wouldn't expect you to ditch your friends either though, if you have plans and we ask to do something, don't lie to us or ditch your friends just say and (forgive me if I speak for myself here) but we will be understanding and it'll all be great. 
  9. Give compliments, not criticism - The age old question that the entire male species dreads 'Does my bum look big in this?' (I actually have never asked that, even of myself but yeah...). This is a case of, if you have nothing nice to say don't say it.. If you think we look nice in something - tell us it'll make our day! That being said, we wouldn't want you to let us go out looking ridiculous either, just don't be rude about it, we might not be too thankful at first but after consideration, we'll realise and be glad. Even if the criticism is playful and you say you're joking, it'll stick to us for ages, gnawing away at our self esteem, I'm not even exaggerating.
  10. Personal Space - This is described in the film 'angus, thongs and perfect snogging' as the elastic band theory (I'm sure any British girl reading this will understand exactly what I mean, I'm not too sure about other readers)  The gist is after a period of closeness we like to ping off (there's the elastic band we were talking about) and relax a bit, the space period probably wont be long but when we need space, it's important you let us have it, you don't have to cut communication just don't bug us and we'll return the favour when it's your turn.
Other things you should know
  • If we ask certain questions, it isnt always because we want to know, it's because we know the answer and we want to hear it from you!
  • If we say 'what did you just say?' don't actually repeat yourself, we're giving you the chance to think what you said and change your answer!
  • If you've had a thing with a girl and she's still hung up on you, don't talk to her at parties cause that'll get her hopes up, don't flirt with other girls near us either. 
  • Girls have ways of finding out everything, even if you're not with us there'll be someone who knows us that would tell us everything you did, just be careful!
  • You should be exactly who you want around us, we don't want to find that you change entirely when we're around your friends. 
So that's it for this weeks blog (she says as if it was short) I'd like to point out that these are my opinions/views/words etc and may or may not apply to other girls, if you're a girl  and you agree (or even disagree) leave a comment and let me know, also if there's anything you want to see from me then, again, let me know in the comments and I'll get back to you or whatever!
I'd really like to thank you if you're reading this, it means a lot as a first time blogger, I'd also like to thank my friends who at such an early stage are being so supportive and nice, love yas

Hayl xo

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