Don't worry.. Be Happy

I worry - A LOT and I wish I didn't and it probably wont even change but maybe having a written down example as to why I shouldn't worry will give me a sort of tangible reminder that it (the worrying thing) can be fine!

So last Wednesday I had a job interview and it was extremely important to me because it's a job I really want. After applying I had to wait over 3 weeks for a reply and as it was my second time applying for the role (different recruiting schemes) I wasn't optimistic at all but I was overjoyed when I saw I had an interview. 
      I decided (even though this was in November) that I wanted to be interviewed in January as it'd give me time to acclimatise and be prepared. It did work, I felt fully confident I knew what to do in the interview. On Wednesday I was going shopping with Hollie (I've mentioned her before) and we made it back a little late. I didn't panic too much because it wasn't too far away, I then looked at my confirmation email to check what I needed to take and found that I was supposed to attend 30 minutes before the interview.. queue a major panic! 
      I met Holl at the bus stop and cried my eyes out, I was so scared that I wouldn't be interviewed because of how late I was.. by the time I got there I was about an hour late including the turning up half an hour early. To calm me down Holl decided we'd be best off walking to another bus stop that was further away and all the while she was saying so much encouraging things ('you'll be fine, loads of people turn up late', 'they're not gonna say you can't be interviewed.. they'll probably be happier you came at all rather than leaving it') but in my head it just wasn't working, I wasn't able to calm down until I got there! 
      When I eventually made it there wasn't a single thing to worry about, the security guard confirmed everything holl was saying, apparently everyone had turned up late! The interview turned out to be the best interview I could've had, one of the interviewers was a slightly older version of me, the other interviewer was dumbstruck because of it! 

The whole point of that story is that if I hadn't gone, if I didn't have my bestfriend calming me down I would have worried myself to a point of going home and regretting it for the rest of my life! Im certainly a 'when the going gets tough - the tough get going' kind of girl and I think I may always be and I don't know why.. I just really need to change it because one day I wont have people that will calm me down and I will just end up quitting and leaving it. 

The moral of this post is: You'll never know unless you try.. don't just leave something without even giving it a go because you could end up seriously regretting it! 

The other moral is: when your bestfriend tells you it'll be fine.. listen cause shes probably right!P.S. if your reading this holl, thank you so much, I honestly don't think I'd have gone if it hadn't been for you re-assuring me and convincing me it'd be fine, I cannot thank you enough, Love you!

So yeah, this was just to show that if you just try you never know what  could happen, I am for sure glad I tried and im sure you all will be!

Hayl xo 

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What to do when your sick!

Today I'm very poorly and I considered leaving my blog for this week because it was effort just reaching for my laptop but I decided to turn a negative into a positive and used my being ill as inspiration for today's post!

1. one thing I like to do when I'm poorly is to put my favourite film on usually that's the cat in the hat or angus thongs and perfect snogging or maybe the notebook, it depends on my mood
2. I also like to find a book to read especially if I have a headache, I find it more peaceful than watching the TV.
3. When I'm poorly my favourite thing to eat is tinned tomato soup or chicken noodles, if Im that poorly im throwing up or it hurts to swallow then its tomato soup but if its just that I feel a tad under the weather then I'll eat the noodles.
4. Like most poorly people I mainly stay in bed for the full day but if im poorly for over two days I get bored easily and I have to curl up in the front room on the sofa.
5. to me when I'm ill its important to keep as comfy as possible, I plump all my pillows up, grab some extra cushions and curl up with my hot water bottle. 
6. The best thing to do when your poorly is have the heating on and drink lots of water, it can help because you will sweat more and help the illness leave your body quicker.
7. depending on my illness, I'll take a very hot bath, if I feel sick it makes it worse so I usually just do that if I'm achey.
8. I will also take some medication so if I have a cold I just take some cold/flu tablets or whatever medicine will help me out!

I don't want to actually spend too long on this as I'm really tired and I can't think of much else that I do so yeah I'll leave it here, if you're poorly and your reading this I hope it gives you some comfort and ideas of what to do whenever your poorly and I wish you a speedy recovery and if your not poorly, thanks for reading anyway and I hope you also get ideas of what to do when you're poorly

hayl xo

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Things life has taught me!

At the grand old age of 18 and a quarter I feel I have definitely learnt a lot about life so guess what here I am telling you all just what I have learnt, because that's what I do now, I tell strangers that I don't know a thing about.. massive details about my life!

1. If you want something enough you can have it but not without working for it!
2. Underage drinking is both good and bad.. as I've said before, I've drank alcohol since I was like 15 and it was good because I have now developed an understanding/better tolerance to the alcohol, like on my first night out I was able to drink a lot and still not be extremely drunk! The bad thing is that now after about 3 years, drinking is a bit boring, I think cause now I can legally drink and before I couldn't and there was more excitement but yeah, it does wear old!
3. when you fall out with friends, it's not always the end of the world, if you're in the wrong you should still do everything you can to fix it and apologise and whatnot but if your not in the wrong or if after you try everything they still don't want to know you or make up you should just let it go and leave them to it because 9/10 if you truly tried everything you could, they'll come back and if not its cool!
4. Crushes never last, they come quick and often but they end as quick as they came, it might not feel like it but they do, this is a fact proven by many!
5. among the problems a young person can come across, there's always someone worse, so you should be grateful unless you are the someone that has it worse then we all feel for you!
6. problems aren't problems for long they manage to be fixed after a while
7. When you do something it has to be for you - you can't do something because your friends are or you're parents want you to, if you do or don't want to do something it's your choice no one else's!
8. Not too long ago I learnt how important it is to own up to things straight away and people might think ah well that's something you should do anyway, in certain situations it isn't always that easy but I've realised that even in a hard situation where you might not feel like you can own up trust me if you don't it's 100% worse than what it could've been!
9. At some point its best to let things go.. maybe not straight after because the person its being let go on may think what they did was acceptable and they are free to do it again but obviously their not.. I just mean don't hold on to it too long because then its only you getting hurt!
10. Rome was definitely not built in a day.. if you really want something (just like in lesson 1) you will not get it without work and sometimes that might only take a day but not all the time, it will sometime take weeks.. just let life take it's course and it shall happen!
11. Don't do things half arsed.. if you only put half of your effort into it it's probably going to be poo and you might have to do it all over again so why not do it right the first time?
12. Don't throw ice over club balconies
13. don't wear play suits to town
14. don't drink too much before a night out because you'll end up ruining your best friends night by being sick and having to go home!

I can't think of any more so I'm going to leave it there but if I think of any more I shall make a part 2 because I am always learning lessons as I make many a mistake! I shall see you all next week with another post if you have something you want to see from me like advice on a certain topic or a q&a or just anything at all just leave it in the comments because I'm always looking for suggestions :) and I will see you next week!

Hayl xo

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The teenage school years - Hang in there, you'll be just fine!

So this week I've decided to do another little advicey type blog (a 'how to' if you will) on surviving your teenage years! When you look over your teens, you'll realise that you really were being way too dramatic and it just wasn't as bad as you think!

Year 9 (13-14) - So in year 8 you're going through some huge changes in yourself, you're growing up and your learning tonnes more about yourself. Depending on your school too you might be making some huge decisions and that's not the worst of it, you're "falling in love". Now the reason that's in quotation marks is that I know that at that age, your quite unlikely to stay in a relationship with the people you're seeing, don't get me wrong I know people that are 18 and have been in a six year relationship and if you end up like that you're lucky, extremely lucky, but honestly its not the end of the world if you break up, you'll find someone else and you'll be just fine! If you haven't got a boyfriend/girlfriend yet don't worry it's not a race at all, just keep positive! Now I know it can be quite upsetting if you really really like someone and they don't like you back but again, it isn't the end of the world, don't go changing yourself for that person to like you because it isn't likely that they will, just be yourself and it will all come naturally! If being 13 and hormonal isn't bad enough some schools (mine included) decide to throw you in at the deep end and start you off on your GCSE's exams that pretty much start off your career. The best advice I can give is to not take it for granted, GCSE's aren't easy and you will not pass unless you actually give it a go so revise really hard, be on time to lessons and don't take too much time off, they really are important to your future. 

13 Year old hayley... when I was 13 I was doing BTEC Dance and GCSE History, and I liked them so much that I then carried on to do the second year of dance and I continued History onto AS Level. I don't think I did too bad in them either to say I was only 13 and only did the one year of class work before my exams. I also found who I probably thought at the time was the love of my life, truth is I didn't really see him too often and we might as well have not been "in a relationship" it was definitely one of those throwaway teenage relationships I was talking about! I was basically just finding myself I guess, I'm still not too sure I found myself fully to be honest!
     
year 10 (14 -15) - by year 10 you've pushed through the nasty little hormonal phase (trust me it is a phase) and you've probably found the people who you want in your life forever, I know I did! If your school isn't like mine you will be starting your GCSE's and like I said they aren't easy. Now you've made it through the hormonal stage you're probably in a stage where everyone is a little bit bitchy. You're friendship group probably has more arguments than an episode of the Jeremy kyle show which if you don't know, is a lot! As well as this, the parties people have are getting more grown up, in england its not that strange (in my part anyway) to have started drinking alcohol (not that I advise it in any way) and with alcohol comes many hilarious stories (again not that I advise it) and if you want to have a little drink theres honestly nothing wrong with that, as long as there is someone in charge of making sure everyone else is ok and that no one gets hurt. I can't stress enough that not only is drinking underage illegal, it's not compulsory, there is nothing to say you HAVE to drink at a young age, and if you do please, please drink safely too many teenagers go to hospital for alcohol related issues. 

14 year old hayley... At 14 I was getting there, finding what I wanted to do in life and who I wanted to be around me when I did do it. The friends I've mentioned in previous posts are the ones I got close to then, that's 4 years ago and we're still all here, I love the lot of them! Most of my friends I knew before secondary school but weren't too close to and there are two or three that I only really got close to in my teens and I love them I do! There has been a lot of fallings out but we're all here for eachother and I couldn't imagine life without them really! As well as this I was still doing my GCSE's and I picked Art and the second year of dance, as I already mentioned. Art didn't get me anywhere, it was mainly to fill up my time because I didn't want to do anything else so yeah. Now Im not going to lie, I was one of those teenagers that did get drunk but I mostly knew my limits and we were always supervised at parties and such and never had an alcohol related illness/problem, I really can't stress enough that 14 is not an age you should be starting to drink alcohol, it's something you do in your own time     

year 11 (15-16) - now this is the last year and your making a lot of decisions, you choose a college, subjects at college and basically what you want to do in the future (in order to pick the right courses). The best advice I can give you is to choose things that will help and that you'll enjoy. You can't pick a college because your friends are going because you'll probably have different timetables anyway, as well as this, you can't pick a course because your friends do it because if you don't enjoy it, your wasting two or more years of your life and you'll not get anywhere in life and that my pals is the harsh reality! As well as all this your getting that all important coursework in and revising for the very last exams and trust me there is no better feeling than putting your pen down after that last exam! The worst bit about this last year is leaving, especially if you've been in the same school for your full school life, just knowing you'll not see most the people in your year properly ever again! As everyone knows, there is an upside to leaving school.. PROM!! It is the most amazing night ever everyones dressed up theres food, dancing, music and everyones just so happy and its wonderful so yeah thats prom in a nutshell! 

15 year old hayley... at 15 I had managed to survive school, I had (still have) the best friends a girl could ask for and I was just so content with life it was great! So I passed most of my exams and the ones I didn't pass, It wasn't too far off. I cried my eyes out on the last day of school, aaaaaallll daaay not even joking! even though I knew I'd still have all of my friends, I just realised when I was watching the slideshow of photos, how much everyone in my year had grown up and how much I'd actually miss seeing everyone all the time!

I think this post is long enough, and if you read this far you are truly amazing and I do appreciate every single one of you, honestly even though there aren't that many people reading these right now, its still  (for example) 20 different people reading something I've posted online, 20 people, majority of whom I dont know, it might sound strange from a readers point of view but as a writer its wonderful so thank you alot, you truly are wonderful! 

Hayl xo

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Surviving Sixth Form

I went to a sixth form college and really enjoyed it and I feel that this was down to my friends and other experiences so I felt that it would be a good idea for me to write a post with advice and ideas to get you through those two years that can only be described as marmite - you either love it or hate it!

Friendship 

One reason I enjoyed college was because I had good friends throughout the two years I was there. On my first day I already knew people that had come from my school and although I wasn't close to them at the time I attached myself to the group and thus had friends at college. Now that's all good and dandy to have people at break and dinner to sit with and have a laugh with but you will most likely need to make friends in classes (unless your friends are in your classes too) which isn't always easy. most teachers will force you to move from the seat you chose and sit next to someone you don't know and although this is nerve racking, you will certainly make friends by doing this because you're all in the same boat and have to talk to each other. If this doesn't happen which it most likely will, you can always find someone when having to do a partner project. Even if it doesn't happen straight away, you will make friends in your class!

Sticking to deadlines 

This is actually quite hypocritical of me as I didn't always manage it and your only human, when doing 4 almost brand new subjects you wont always be able to stick to deadlines but at least trying to will make your life easier. The best way to do this is to start the assignment as soon as you can and plan the assignment out. Like I said I didn't always stick to the deadline but I was always honest with my teachers, if it was close to a deadline and I didn't think I would be able to make it, I would hang back after class and explain to the teacher why I was unable to complete it for the deadline and they were always supportive and gave any help they could. Never rush something to get it in on time, you could lose valuable marks from your coursework

Pick something you're interested in 

My law teacher always said people are generally happier in college because they aren't being forced to do the subject, they are doing it out of interest. If you enjoy the subject you're more likely to get good grades in it and in the first few weeks of college your allowed to change your subjects so if you don't like something, don't stick in it because your friends do it or because your parents want you to, find something that you'll enjoy but will still help in your future. 

Use your free periods wisely

I know that you don't always want to sit and work through all of your free periods but it'll help in the long run. If you have work that isn't computer based then great, go and sit with your new found friends in the common room or wherever you want and do your work just make sure you make time to do it all. 

Revision

So this sounds like such a teacher-ish thing to say but honestly you can never revise enough, even more so when January exams have been eliminated! When I first started college my history teacher asked me to set a personal target and it was to revise from the start and she said I wouldn't need to, I wish I had though! I still actually stick by that too, when you finish a topic in college, make some notes, revise it and try and remember it, don't spend too long on it because you have to learn other stuff but you'll be glad you did when it gets to exam season and you'll find it less stressful!

So this is my first proper post and I'm not sure whether it'll be liked that much or if anyone will even read it (cue Bridget Jones singing 'all by myself') but if you are someone who has read this, please give me feedback, it's really helpful for me and it's just something for me to do really 

Hayley xo

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